If you are concerned that someone is struggling or might be thinking about suicide and you aren't sure how to talk to them, you can call Lifeline on 13 11 14
You might know that someone is struggling to cope or facing a difficult time, but not know what to say or how to help. Checking in and asking if they are OK might seem difficult, but it could be a life-saving conversation. Letting someone know that you care, or that you have noticed a change in their behaviour is a good place to start the conversation. It can also be useful to start with a statement such as “I have noticed that you seem really down at the moment.”
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How can we tell if someone is a suicide risk?
Many people who attempt or end their life by suicide show signs beforehand. If we can recognise people who are depressed and at risk of taking their own life, we have the opportunity to intervene with the best chance of a positive outcome. Be aware that 25% of suicides do not show signs before they make an attempt.
Risk factors:
Any of the symptoms of depression
Anyone who speaks actively of suicide should be considered at risk
Recent loss - divorce, separation or relationship breakdown, death of family or friend, retirement, loss of job, money, status, security or health problems
Family history of suicide
Substance abuse
Prior suicide attempts
Declining performance and participation in work, relationships, hobbies and socially
Acquiring the means to take their own life, or working out a plan (where, when, how)
How can I help someone who may be suicidal?
Take the threat very seriously. Every threat is, in truth, a call for help. Better to risk embarrassment if you are wrong than to be remorseful forever.
Once you take the threat seriously and offer to help here are other suggestions:
Listen. Suicidal people often feel isolated and unimportant. Be non-judgmental and empathetic.
Most suicidal people don't wish to die. They're incapable of seeing other options. Their warning signs are calls for help before they take the only option they can see.
If you're unsure, ask if they're suicidal. Asking will not make it worse; rather, it gives them permission to talk.
Talking gives a sense of connection, of hope, and shows that someone cares enough to listen and support them.
If they're suicidal, ask if they have a plan. Do they have the means? Have they thought about when to attempt it?
If they don’t have a plan, it may not be an immediate crisis. Nevertheless there is a serious problem. Encourage them to get professional help and offer to help make the first call.
If they do have a plan but are not threatening immediate action, ensure they agree to not taking suicidal action until they see you again. You could formalise this into a contract, agreement or promise. Again, encourage professional help and offer to help make the first call.
If they have a plan and are threatening immediate action, do not leave them alone. Take whatever action is necessary to get them into professional hands.